How you can help make the first day of school positive

The first day of school is a milestone—whether it’s your child’s very first day ever or their first day back after summer break. It’s filled with fresh possibilities, new challenges, and plenty of emotions.

As both a Family Nurse Practitioner (FNP) and Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner (PMHNP), I’ve seen how the first day can shape the rest of the school year. A smooth start supports not just learning, but also emotional resilience. Here’s how you can help make the day a positive one for your child—and for yourself.

1. Start the Morning Calm and Early

Rushed mornings can set the tone for the entire day. Wake up a bit earlier than you think you need to, so there’s time for breakfast, last-minute adjustments, and a few minutes of connection.

Pro Tip: Play calm, upbeat music in the background instead of turning on the TV or scrolling on your phone. It keeps energy positive and reduces distractions.

2. Fuel Their Body and Brain

A nourishing breakfast helps with focus, mood, and stamina. Pair a protein (eggs, yogurt, nut butter) with a complex carbohydrate (whole grain toast, oatmeal, fruit). Encourage a glass of water before they leave—it’s easy to forget to hydrate at school.

3. Talk Through the Day Ahead

Spend a few minutes outlining what your child can expect—drop-off, their teacher’s name, lunch routine, and pick-up plan. Knowing the “what” and “when” helps reduce first-day jitters.

Conversation Starters:

“What’s one thing you’re excited about today?”

“What’s one thing you’re curious or nervous about?”

4. Pack a Little Comfort

A small note in their lunchbox or a familiar keychain on their backpack can serve as a quiet reminder they’re loved and supported. For younger children, a transitional object like a worry stone or small charm can be grounding.

5. Keep Your Goodbye Short and Sweet

Lingering at drop-off can actually increase anxiety. Offer a confident smile, a hug, and a simple “I love you—see you later!” This shows your child you trust they can handle the day.

6. Be Ready for an Emotional After-School

The first day is often emotionally draining—there may be joy, frustration, or tears (sometimes all three within five minutes). Give your child space to process before asking too many questions. Offer a snack, a hug, and some downtime.

7. End the Day with Connection

Before bed, spend a few minutes reflecting on the day together:

“What’s one thing you learned today?”

“What made you smile?”

“What’s something you’d like to try tomorrow?”

This not only builds emotional awareness but also strengthens your bond.

Final Thoughts
The first day of school is more than a date on the calendar—it’s a reset for routines, relationships, and learning. With a little planning, emotional awareness, and plenty of encouragement, you can help your child walk into that classroom ready to learn, grow, and thrive.

And remember—your calm, confident presence is the most important “school supply” they have.